The first date went really well and you would like to meet again. Though you have been chatting comfortably for months, how do you know who is supposed to make the next move?

Both, men and women get nervous about initiating contact after the first date.

Stereotypical behaviour can limit the way in which men and women respond to contact after the first date. Studies show that many women prefer to avoid making contact first so as not to seem “easy” or too eager. Many women also believe that a man who does not take initiative is not worth her time.

Other studies have shown that men may feel that women who get in contact after the first date are uninteresting or desperate. However these stereotypes are becoming less popular. Every date is different and even with online dating as a great tool to meet someone new, the new relationship will flourish offline.

Ditch your preconceptions and learn to enjoy the process

The truth is that, in the modern world, situations like these should not have to be framed by these patterns of stereotypical behaviour. The best way to lose the anxiety of waiting for your potential partner to make contact is to realise that it really does not matter who calls or messages first. Most couples enjoy their time together more when their partner is also happy and showing enjoyment. If you like your date and enjoyed your time, indulging in the first date afterglow is a far better use of your time.

Let your gut guide you

While the potential rejection involved in making contact first can be intimidating, remember that if you enjoyed your time with your date there is a high chance that they did too. Trusting your gut feeling about whether your date will respond in kind is the best way to overcome your nerves.

What do you really have to lose? Contacting your potential partner after the first date if you feel that they enjoyed their time too will lift the stress off both of your shoulders. It can be the first step towards a wonderful potential relationship. With every effort you make, you will get closer to finding your Perfect Match.